Forum Sensitivity

ApolloAndy said:

I have written multiple paragraph posts and hit "back" on my browser instead of "submit reply" because I realized I had nothing to contribute and really just wanted to hear my own voice.

Ha! I thought I was the only one.

....iamthewarlwusfizzizle.

CoasterDiscern said: If you cant handle the heat, get out of the kitchen.

Yes. And there are kitchen's that are cooler and won't be part of the high-heat stuff (see rule #3). "Take what you want, leave the rest" is more my motto these days. If I didn't get something out of Coasterbuzz, I wouldn't be here. If I didn't get something from being an ACE member or hanging out on TPR, I wouldn't go there either. They all have something different to offer, and all have pros and cons.

I like hanging out here, it reminds me I'm not the only one with issues :)

Nobody is perfect, blah blah blah... I've also learned that someone who is a total prick online can be very nice in person. I'm grateful for that.

I like this site. A lot! I feel that some of the folks who have been regulars here offer much and really keep the forums relevant. I can't thank some of these folks enough - as they have given me ideas, shared their trip reports and offereed sugestions to enhance the enjoyment of this hobby for me.

I also like and trust the leadership team of this site.

I think newer posters offer a different perspective too and I welcome them.

And I miss some of the posters who aren't around anymore or who post as much.

I enjoy the fact that we can have different opinions and share them openly.

I would never consider any of the regulars intentially mean or rude. OPinionated at times...but not rude.

Wow. Just checked...I've been posting on Coasterbuzz, on and off, since 2000.

I'd agree, people -- in general, not just on Coasterbuzz -- are more sensitive these days. Or is it that people have a greater sense of entitlement? I enjoy the give and take of Coasterbuzz; but it does seem like more folks these days feel that their ideas should be applauded rather than discussed. I prefer people who are matter of fact and direct, and that's how I present myself, and I have been told I'm rude because of that.

I know that I can't always resist feeding trolls.... blame my Asperger's. It's hard to resist the need to show people the error of their ways. (Something that's gotten me in trouble at work more than once.)

Lord Gonchar said:

Ha! I thought I was the only one.

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That's three of us. I probably don't bother with half of what I intend to say, and don't post half of what I actually type.

Four of us.

Me too... err five. I suspect that a lot of us are like that.

It took me 20 minutes to refine the drivel I posted above.

I've always been like that. Lately I've posted more stuff than I probably should have, but I still hit the back button after tying novellas often, and have even deleted stuff I just posted.

The timing of this topic is amazing. Just the other day I was called out on another forum I've frequented almost as long as I have here by the staff for "jumping all over" someone and being too unfriendly. My rebuttal was that people need thicker skin...especially because my comment was tame compared to some I've made here. That wasn't received well.

People are too sensitive. Like Jeff said, it's a coaster site where we come to waste time and talk about crap. I've been trying to get that message to the guys at the aforementioned site for years.

I take it back, 2013 isnt the Year of the Wind. It's the Year of Getting Butthurt.

Nice to see Grumpy Vater alive and well.

Few things:

1) I like where this thread has gone and the discussion within it.

2) It's taken some a lot of courage to admit they don't like things around here. I think that's cool even if it doesn't mean change will occur.

3) I'm relieved that the general consensus seems to be an understanding that the main point is to guide the discussions and maintain site integrity and not to be mean/rude. I would NEVER intentionally hurt anyone.

4) I think Billy might have just called me a "total prick online." :-)

5) I've now been informed of the originating thread from three years ago that started this whole thing and the person with the issue. They've been encouraged to chime in and said no. I suspect I know why.

But either way...

6) I can't imagine carrying a grudge for three years over CoasterBuzz or any poster who chats here. That screams of a sensitivity issue.

I hope the discussion continues. It's always good to have a reality check discussion from time to time.

There are 6 of us.

That said, I cannot imagine living in a reality where something someone said to me on a forum makes me want to pick up my ball and go home. But, to each his/her own.

I don't think people are necessarily more sensitive, I think there are simply more people with varying degrees of maturity "out here".

Discussion forums can be a beautiful thing for individuals with a range of interests, issues, and thoughts to share...especially for those who can "speak" much more clearly and thoughtfully with the written word as opposed to public speaking. Some of my students who rarely speak up in classes become the most outspoken students when we engage online in forums.

Places like this are also magnets for extremely immature (both intellectually and/or emotionally) individuals. The anonymity of the a forum gives one the lack of inhibition to speak with no filter (and indeed, there actually may not be a filter at times anyway).

Consider the phenomenon of the "troll", for example. Some people are immature. Some people are just assholes for the sake of being an asshole.

People need to be less sensitive and have thicker skin at one end.

People should be more thoughtful and try to be friendly at the other.

And everywhere in between :)

Maybe it's semantics, but I don't think we need to be mean necessarily, just to the point and strict.

If people misunderstand that or take it the wrong way, then screw 'em.

Carrie J. said: 2) It's taken some a lot of courage to admit they don't like things around here.

It also takes a lot of courage to admit fault. People easily see fault in others when they have the same fault, or have struggled with it in the past. "Ya spot it, ya got it."

Carrie J. said: 4) I think Billy might have just called me a "total prick online." :-)

At one time, I thought you were a total prick. But you were very nice to me in person. The comment was not just directed at you. I'm sorry for name calling, it was wrong of me. Won't do it again :)

Carrie J. said:

5) I've now been informed of the originating thread from three years ago that started this whole thing and the person with the issue.

I promise you, it's much more than one person.

Carrie J. said:

6) I can't imagine carrying a grudge for three years over CoasterBuzz or any poster who chats here. That screams of a sensitivity issue.

You started the thread :)

For what it's worth, I think everyone who posts here brings something to the table, most of the time. I even appreciate what Gonch says a lot of the time. And that's not backhanded, I'm being honest. And sappy.

Oh, Billy... you are something.

GayCoasterGuy said:

I promise you, it's much more than one person.

I'm sure there is more than just one person who has an issue with me. But it was only one that prompted the unsolicited FB message regarding a grudge from three years ago.

GayCoasterGuy said: You started the thread :)

Yep, I'm a sensitive person. No doubt. What else ya got? It's that sensitivity that makes it hard for me to be ok with folks thinking I'm mean or rude to them. The good news is that I'm willing to deal with it right away. I didn't harbor any negativity for three years and let my friend throw the punch about it. You know, so that it's one-directional and all. :-)

Btw, I really do care about people. I would never intentionally hurt anyone...

But when I get provoked enough, I will start punching back. :-)

Is it me or does drama follow Billy everywhere he goes? Can we leave that elsewhere, please?

Okay now I'm lost.

Billy? This entire thread is all about drama. lol

Yeah I don't think billy, who admittedly is a bit dramatic, can be blamed for drama here. Seems like it boils down to a personal issue on Facebook at this stage.